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"To get respect, you must give respect" - Jon Jepson

A natural urge for any human being is just to be liked.
If people like the person they see in front of them, then that person must surely feel good about themselves, right?
Right. And wrong.

If you have a lot of friends, then obviously your doing something right in life, because people like to be around you, and must enjoy even knowing you.

Let's not forget that Hitler was a popular person. He was a people person too.
Im pretty sure that if I met Hitler on a night out, I would probably develop a man crush on him. He was just that kind of guy. He could talk well, he was strong and positive minded (which is possibly the most attractive trait a person can have) and I've even heard he could be quite funny on occasion.

But in all honesty, was he a nice guy?

Many of the same traits that I've also heard about the Queen. Yes, I'm comparing the Queen to Adolf Hitler. I believe they have the same sense of attractiveness, which is probably due to the fact that they both had a lot of power.
Another natural urge for any human being is to have power.
And people in power can rule over us-blessed-without-power, in either 2 ways:
Fear or Respect.

In my experience, fear works much better in having an effect on people. It's easier, it's quicker. There are really many, many advantages for it.
And there are plenty less advantages for ruling with respect. It's much harder, takes a lot more effort, and generally doesn't work as well.

But then why, when I'm put in the situation of wanting/needing to have control over other people, do I always try to get them to respect me? And never fear me?
It rarely works out, yet I can't seem to change my ways.

People will like you and want to be friends with you for 2 reasons. Fear and respect.
Admittedly it's more indirect, but it's still the same. I think.

I urge everyone out there to go for respect. Fear is a horrible feeling.